We asked eight NYU international students to talk about their experiences dating and connecting to Americans. BRAZILThe biggest difference is that for us making out is pretty chill, you know? When I think of dates, I think of thirty year olds desperate to get married. I feel like here people have a circle of personal space that they only allow a few careful chosen people to penetrate.What I realized with Americans is that if you make out with them the way we do in Brazil, they get the wrong idea. ” He tried to sound really nice as he was asking me what was the point in “this.” So American, right? The first time I went on a date with an American guy I was so nervous because I felt like we had no intimacy whatsoever. For me, dating is meeting a 20 year-old that is a friend of a friend at a bar, thinking he’s cute, and then your friend making things happen. And then you still don’t go on a date, you say things like: “Everyone’s going to that bar on Friday, will you be there? It’s harder to meet people here — they’re anti-social.Thanks also to Wendy Moynihan, the coordinator of the International Student Support Services, who put together this much-needed resource. People in China might think you are creepy or strange.“Since I did not come to the United States until last summer, everything for me was new at the very beginning. Usually when people in China see strangers, they ignore them and keep doing what they are doing. When I’m walking on campus, people I don’t even know say hello or smile at me all the time. They would ask, “I do not even know her, why is she smiling at me? Maybe some international students will not regard it as a big deal, but this makes me feel like Penn State Harrisburg is a big family.Dating in itself is a very personal and sophisticated matter. According to Lynne P., an American living in Germany, ” …
Dating in New York is hard enough as it is, but it can be even worse when you’re from an entirely different country.
NIGERIA“I’m sometimes taken aback by the hook-up culture here and how people are able to be intimate with people they just met 2 seconds ago. In Nigeria, when you would get hit on, mostly a guy would come up to you and say he wanted to be your friend, not like ‘I think you’re pretty, let’s go out.’ Guys do walk up to you in Nigeria but they try to hide their motives.“In Nigeria, many types of men can be possessive (mostly the ones raised with no form of outside influence) and feel like they should have a say in your life.
I didn’t think that was a thing here until someone I guess I was ‘minorly’ flirting with thought it was okay to grab me and tell me to walk with him instead of my friends.“The whole friends with benefits thing isn’t really popular but people do it on the down low in Nigeria.
Back in the days of yore in Austria, women used to rock up to the ballroom dance with slices of apple under their armpits. When all of the lively music had finished and the dancing complete, the women would remove the sweaty apple slices from their armpits and hand them to the men they fancied (quite a way to break the ice! If he fancied her back, the man would take a bite out of her "Spooning" takes on a whole new meaning in this UK nation: whether you're "the big or little one" matters not.
This guide has been prepared for International students to read and refer to during your time here.